What are those beliefs which undermine our power, ability, creativity, talent and expression? The answers to this question might be found in your answers to questions number 7, 9, 11, 16, 24, 29 and 30 in the questionnaire given in the previous chapter Do not be limited, however, to investigating these answers only. You may find that your childhood environment may have programmed you with some of the following limiting beliefs:
1. I cannot dance, sing, draw, make arithmetic calculations, face difficult people, etc.
2. If I fail, they will laugh at me, they will criticise me, they will not love me.
3. I must be perfect to be loved. (It is easy for a child to get this impression, since he has likely heard angry voices and criticism whenever he made mistakes and kind words and approval when he was “correct.”)
4. I cannot do this as well as the others. Thus I should not try. I must do it best or better. I am not acceptable if I am not “the best”. (This is a common programming of our competitive culture, which gives emphasis to who is better in grades, sports, business, etc, rather than to the effort or to the moral quality of the person.)
5. I am not as smart as the others, and thus will not be able to succeed, nor will I be acceptable to them.
6. If I do that which I want to do, (i.e. change jobs, express myself in different unusual ways) I will not be accepted by the others.
7. If I change my life-style to something which expresses my real feelings and beliefs more, I may not make it financially. Better to stay where I am although it does not interest me at all. At least I am economically secure.
8. What will others think of me if I am different? (This is also a common belief, since in our school years whoever was different was laughed at and rejected by teachers and the other children.)
9. I have nothing to offer. I have no great abilities or talents which would be useful to others. Better not to bother.
These, and many other such thoughts, are a function of our childhood programming and in direct contradiction with the truth of our real identity. How can we get free from them
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